Dating an emotional vampire
They subconsciously have learned to use their innate abilities to tap other sources of energy, like the people around them.No matter how much you enjoyed Twilight, trust me—you don’t want to be with this kind of vampire.Living with an abusive person means learning to live in a topsy-turvy world where normal rules do not apply.It is like the movie the Poseidon Adventure where the ship gets turned upside down and the floor is the ceiling and the ceiling the floor.Just being around the person is a mentally and/or emotionally draining experience.You may be perfectly fine going about your day, but after five minute with this person everything just seems to start going downhill.Energy drain can be a touchy subject to bring up with your partner.
Though they’d never intentionally hurt anyone, anything that threatens their sense of being in charge will prompt what can be a hurtful reaction. While the immortal, blood-sucking kind may not exist, the mortal, energy-sucking vampires do—and they’re even scarier in some cases. The term “vampire” is applied to these people because they seem to suck the life out of others the same way a vampire of folklore sucks your blood.Most of the time, they don’t even know they’re doing it.You can’t necessarily spell out why, but somehow you always come away from their company feeling anxious, paranoid or as if you’ve given a lot of yourself and they’ve given nothing in return. Their attention to detail can be irritating, but it’s frequently something that will save you time and money. Bernstein, the clinical psychologist, gives to people who appear bright, talented or charismatic on the surface, but who, once they’ve won you over, drain your emotional energy.